with Ourselves, and Enjoy Being Solitary(1)
To dance with ourselves means to “play” with ourselves in every
aspect. We should enjoy our own time, so as to feel the very special joy of
If we are alone over a long period of time, what feeling will we
have? Bored, lonely, lonesome, or afraid, or easy, happy, carefree or
satisfied? Some people prefer to be alone for a long period of time, because
they feel content with their situations. Some people need companies, because
they can’t bear to be alone.
It is hard and even impossible for humans to be separate from
crowds to live alone. Humans need to have exchanges with others to satisfy
their needs. Consequently, various kinds of problems may unavoidably occur in
I need friends, and I can’t be separate from crowds. However,
at least I can face external worlds by means of my simple attitudes, concepts
and behavior. I should feel dependable on my heart, for recognizing the value of
my existence. I can explicitly let myself understand that I am not alone,
because there are always two persons─ “me” and “myself”─ keeping company with
me. “Myself” and I share a very profound state of mind and spiritual feeling.
That is, I can enjoy being solitary among the throngs.
Enjoying being solitary is not equal to being alienated without
interpersonal interactions. It does not mean staying at home everyday, either.
Instead, when I reach such a state of mind, I will feel steady, affirmative,
purified, joyful and satisfied. We can cultivate the feeling of enjoying being
solitary little by little from a very tiny beginning. When we find out the way
of being solitary we prefer, we can feel the happiness within. Then, we will
get to know how to enjoy being solitary if we like such feeling.
When being alone, I would like to experience the following
When I am among a throng of people in any
station, MRT, airport, department store, street, scenic spot and so on,
sometimes I may slow down my pace and find a place to sit down. Then, I will observe
people’s dressing, facial expressions, walk movements, and various kinds of
interactions, while experiencing their feeling such as busy, tense, relaxed,
happy and more. Although I just sit there watching, I also have interactive
feeling as well.
I will slow down my pace when I am on the
balcony of my house, on roads or in a park, or when I go on a picnic or go to visit the Nature
(ex. beach, forest, valley, etc.), and then I will experience my feeling and moods
at that moment, for example:
The flowers on my balcony shoot!
Today, some flowers die,while some flowers blossom!
The branches of the
tree swing as the wind blows. They swing differently every time!
Some unknown grasses and flowers blossom to
show their unique beauty!
A falling tree leave is so beautiful when being
observed in other ways!
………………………………………~~待續to be continued~~