Cry, Metamorphosis, and Growth(1)
Everyone cries, no matter he/she is an adult or a child. We can
express our feeling by crying. However, we tend to restrain and control
ourselves in terms of crying, as we become older. We seem to have self-control
over ourselves; however, in fact, we just stuff all of our own sorrow back to
the warehouse of our sentiments. In addition, the more sentiments we
accumulate, the more dreadful the power will be in the future. Only by venting
our sorrowful sentiments can we become reasonable again.
We all have sentiments and we might lose temper sometimes. The
difference lies in when to vent our sentiments properly at what occasions. We should
not be moderate in our appearance by “controlling” our sentiments. We
should vent our sentiments and reduce the intensity by proper ways. Controlling
our sentiments is not equal to stuffing them back and hiding them in our hearts
or pretending everything is all right. Instead, we should relieve our
sentiments in proper timings.
Crying is a very good way for us to vent our sentiments,
especially when we are solitary. If we know how to handle our sentiments or we
are guided by someone skilled at sentiment relief, it will be a very good way
for us to relive sentiments by crying wholeheartedly without any burden.
If we clearly know why we are sad and sorrowful, it will be
helpful for us to engage in self-healing or turn to external assistance (ex.
reading, attending some courses or activities). If we are unclear about the
reasons, we may need someone with profound empathy to assist us in tracing the
sources in a detailed way and exploring the reasons hidden within our hearts.
Thus, we can relieve our sentiments and pressure, and understand the real
reasons hidden behind our crying and sorrow. By doing so, we will undergo a metamorphosis
and then have growth indeed.
By crying, we can pacify our moods temporarily and remove the
garbage of negative sentiments. We will feel relieved about some kinds of pity
uneasy to be pacified. If we always restrain ourselves from relieving our
sentiments properly, we might have more and more serious negative thoughts and
our moods will become more and more negative.
When my heart is occupied by sorrow, sadness, grievance,
yearning, and poignancy, my eyes wilor
tired, silent or paralyzed. I will have a tight sleep afterward. When I wake up
again, I will feel better.
………………………………………~~待續 to be continued~~