Cry, Metamorphosis, and Growth(2)
We have more or less unknown negative sentiments hidden in the
warehouse of our sentiments. In the process of crying, we will begin to review ourselves
naturally by venting such unknown sentiments─ Naturally, we will cry aloud, even similar
to baby crying, and then we will become confident and reasonable after
One of my friends had cried for seven days, because his pet
passed away. How come was he so sad and sorrowful merely because of the death
of his pet? He did not know the reason, either.
Later, when I gossiped with him, I finally know the true reason
hidden behind his emotional breakdown─ he sticks to his emotion too much, unable to let
go. The sudden separation with his pet made him recall his helplessness and
fear when he was abandoned by his family temporarily. In his appearance, he was
sad for the death of his pet. In fact, he was sad due to his separation with
his family in his early childhood. By relieving his sentiments for seven days,
he was able to understand the cause and then became relieved gradually.
Adults tend to refrain themselves because they may feel
shameful. Especially, “a man should not cry easily” as the old saying goes,
many men are refrained from venting their sentiments. On the contrary, women
are more sentimental, and they tend to vent their feelings by crying.
We all have sentiments. We can prepare tissues and a garbage
can, and then vent our emotional garbage wholeheartedly, as long as we are in a
secret place we feel safe and unrestricted, ex. in our own rooms or within
If our frieno vent their sorrow continuously. Everyone will feel better and have clearer
thoughts and confidence, after is/her emotion